looks the same....

OK you need to update K2. Just go to the extensions manager and install the new package over the old one.
Make sure to take a full site backup first.

just curious why wouldn't updates show like always?

def. cannot afford a crash :(

You don't get an update for K2 either under the Extension's Manager -> Update?
You do have K2 2.6.2, right?

no updates and yes to version

There is nothing else I can think of but to update both your joomla and K2 version. Take a full site backup. If you have akeeba backup you can use it for this. Update your Joomla! version first and K2 afterwards. If you can't get the updater to do this job do it manually.
If you are not up to the task advise your site's developer.

did a purge and all is updated now but still not working :(

Have you set up correctly the Recaptcha keys both in K2 settings and Captcha plugin?
I don't see at all the recaptcha in your comments page.

yes keys are correct as its working in contact form ....going over setting now which ones are correct as there is so many opinions .....jquery,? backend jquery? user manager? etc.....

Just go to K2 Parameters and under Advanced tab -> Anti-Spam settings add the keys.
Then go to the Comments tab and check that you have enabled the Anti-spam protection to Recaptcha.